Shame is a Killer
In light of the recent murders at Atlanta-area spas by a self-professed sex addict, a dialogue has begun in the media and elsewhere about sexual addiction. While we do want to detract from the other important conversation happening about violence towards and the sexualization/victimization of the Asian community, we wanted to pass along an excellent blog post from Marnie Feree, the Founder and Director of Bethesda Workshops. . . .
Abandon Him to Jesus
“You didn’t cause it, you can’t cure it, you can’t control it.” This is what the therapist told me when I went for a “couples weekend” at the treatment facility where my husband was spending 60 days. I had spent most of my marriage believing the opposite of this about my husband’s pornography addiction. . .
Reeling — The Aftermath of Discovery
In the aftermath of discovery I was reeling emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually. After a very public discovery, I was processing the shock of my husband's betrayal along with our friends, family, neighbors, church, and workplaces. I had packed up my babies and driven several hours away to where my family lived. That first day, I couldn’t even get down a smoothie. I felt ill and didn’t have an appetite for days. . .
Welcome to FTP
In the Bible, the Israelites lived in bondage and slavery in Egypt. Then, God showed up, turned their world upside down, and set them free. Freedom, however, did not look like what they hoped—first they had to journey into the wilderness. . . .
You Are Not Alone
If you are reading this, chances are you feel very alone. And probably lost, ashamed and scared. You are not alone. I don’t know your exact story, but let me share mine. When I met my husband in college, we fell hard for one another. He was the peanut butter to my jelly. We just got each other. We made one another laugh, think and dream. We shared a common faith in Jesus, a love of books and beautiful things, and a vision for a life we wanted. We were in love. . .
A Note for Partners
Over and over we hear partners combing through the memories asking what they did to cause their husband or wife to cheat on them or to turn to pornography, to ask what they could have done differently. . . .