Our Story

We had two small children, a beautiful home, wonderful friendships, a blossoming business, and what looked like a great marriage. From the outside, life looked perfect—just like we wanted to believe it was. But, unbeknownst to anyone, T. had a dark secret. Behind the veneer, he was living in the grip of sexual addiction. A struggle with pornography in secret progressed to strip clubs to prostitution to rampant sexual acting out. With each escalation, the need to keep the secret became greater.

But, what man keeps hidden God will reveal. Thanks to the work of some divinely-inspired hackers, the Ashley Madison list was published and T.’s secrets (in part) began to spill into open view. A worst nightmare became reality. That exposure led to an inpatient treatment stay, a year-long separation, hours of therapy, notebooks full of journaling, oceans of tears, the discovery of a community of men and women walking the same journey, and years of work (individually and together) to see if the broken pieces of our marriage could be put back together.

The answer we found was YES. The pieces can be put back together. With a lot of work and community and grace, we even (sometimes) have found gratitude for winding up on this journey of recovery from sexual brokenness and addiction.

We often found great comfort and hope in hearing the stories of others who have walked through the unthinkable. Our story had so many twists-and-turns, starts-and-stops that it cannot be covered in one page here. As our therapists often told us, we are traveling on the roads of Tennessee, not the roads of Texas.

We will walk through the entire story on the Blog portion of the site, using the tag “Our Story.” We hope it provides some comfort to you as well, and we look forward to hearing you find hope in your story along this journey too.